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| | | Author: | dearlydeparted  | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 16:51 | | Subject: | Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 419 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
One day, I will have time again and hoping I still have the stamina/knowledge
to make a presence once more.
all the best, Judith
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| | | | | Author: | jgrossman1025 | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 17:05 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 43 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
One day, I will have time again and hoping I still have the stamina/knowledge
to make a presence once more.
all the best, Judith
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So sad to see you go, I know a lot of the "Older" Wiser memebrs of Bricklnik
have helped me alot in my own business, and have helped me to enjoy lego more,
hope to see you on here soon.
Thanks, NG
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| | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 17:11 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 44 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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So sad to see you go, I know a lot of the "Older" Wiser memebrs of Bricklnik
have helped me alot in my own business, and have helped me to enjoy lego more,
hope to see you on here soon.
Thanks, NG
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Thanks for that, I will be on the forum to get the latest changes and be helpful
where I can - it's the last saving sanity for me, lol
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| | | | | Author: | Stuart9 | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 17:06 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 32 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| My thoughts are with you, wishing you all you need at this time.
Best wishes
Stuart
In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
One day, I will have time again and hoping I still have the stamina/knowledge
to make a presence once more.
all the best, Judith
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| | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 17:13 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 49 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, Stuart9 writes:
| | My thoughts are with you, wishing you all you need at this time.
Best wishes
Stuart
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Thanks Stuart - her timeline will determine all. Have to say, when you have 3
other siblings who do nothing, it's a bitter pill to give up your life. But
I could never let her down, I'm all she has now.
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| | | | | | | | | Author: | jennnifer | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 18:54 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 52 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | In Selling, Stuart9 writes:
| | My thoughts are with you, wishing you all you need at this time.
Best wishes
Stuart
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Thanks Stuart - her timeline will determine all. Have to say, when you have 3
other siblings who do nothing, it's a bitter pill to give up your life. But
I could never let her down, I'm all she has now.
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You are very strong and caring to do this! It must be very hard when there are
those who could help but won't.
Take care and be well,
Jen
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| | | | | | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 08:14 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 34 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| | | You are very strong and caring to do this! It must be very hard when there are
those who could help but won't.
Take care and be well,
Jen
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Thanks Jen - it is hard. I actually had to tell, not ask, my older sister to
visit her on Mother's Day, as I'll be staying home with my family - who
she helps financially quite a lot. That she wouldn't think to do this on
her own amazes me.
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| | | | | Author: | 1001bricks | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 17:44 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 60 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
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Sorry, I don't play with buyers inventory 
| | If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode.
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Mom passed a few days ago, aged 83.
I understand, and don't worry about this, in the end, here it's minor.
But you'll be missed and welcome any time.
Wishing you the best -
Sylvain
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| | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 17:50 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 48 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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Mom passed a few days ago, aged 83.
I understand, and don't worry about this, in the end, here it's minor.
But you'll be missed and welcome any time.
Wishing you the best -
Sylvain
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I'm so sorry Sylvain - you can think you're prepared but the truth is,
you're never prepared for that day.
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| | | | | | | Author: | Stuart9 | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 18:06 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 42 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| Sorry to hear your news too, my best wishes.
In Selling, 1001bricks writes:
| | In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
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Sorry, I don't play with buyers inventory
| | If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode.
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Mom passed a few days ago, aged 83.
I understand, and don't worry about this, in the end, here it's minor.
But you'll be missed and welcome any time.
Wishing you the best -
Sylvain
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| | | | | | | | | Author: | 1001bricks | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 18:12 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 40 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, Stuart9 writes:
| | Sorry to hear your news too, my best wishes.
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Thanks Stu, yep, it's shi^^y moments to live.
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| | | | | | | Author: | Nubs_Select | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 18:23 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 47 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| | | | | Author: | popsicle | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 20:23 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 70 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
One day, I will have time again and hoping I still have the stamina/knowledge
to make a presence once more.
all the best, Judith
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What you're doing for your mother is supremely difficult in ways beyond simple
exhaustion or the disruption of personal needs and desires. Some of these difficulties
will only become apparent after she's left you, Judith. Psychologically taxing
caring for another as they fadeaway, much more so for a parent or child.
I’m eager to learn what you might learn during with this BL-hiatus:
https://www.bricklink.com/message.asp?ID=1161196 Please share when it's time.
… But my hope is that you’ll make the effort to stay involved in what’s been
in a sense, your forum of the last 15 years. It can be a good place to find a
little solace 
The subject of caring for me when it’s my time, came up for the first time between
my kids and I, some time ago. Of course, I tried to make light of the fact that
dad's not gonna be around forever, by saying something like “no biggie, just
find a decent raisin ranch to stick me in” Neither my son nor daughter appreciated
the humor at all. In fact, my daughter upset and with a stern voice, declared
“You’re living with us, dad!" Subject dropped
After spending years sheltering them, parents never want to see their children
burdened, even when grown. To then perceive oneself to be that burden… very difficult.
-Cory
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| | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 07:57 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 48 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| | | What you're doing for your mother is supremely difficult in ways beyond simple
exhaustion or the disruption of personal needs and desires. Some of these difficulties
will only become apparent after she's left you, Judith. Psychologically taxing
caring for another as they fadeaway, much more so for a parent or child.
I’m eager to learn what you might learn during with this BL-hiatus:
https://www.bricklink.com/message.asp?ID=1161196 Please share when it's time.
… But my hope is that you’ll make the effort to stay involved in what’s been
in a sense, your forum of the last 15 years. It can be a good place to find a
little solace
The subject of caring for me when it’s my time, came up for the first time between
my kids and I, some time ago. Of course, I tried to make light of the fact that
dad's not gonna be around forever, by saying something like “no biggie, just
find a decent raisin ranch to stick me in” Neither my son nor daughter appreciated
the humor at all. In fact, my daughter upset and with a stern voice, declared
“You’re living with us, dad!" Subject dropped
After spending years sheltering them, parents never want to see their children
burdened, even when grown. To then perceive oneself to be that burden… very difficult.
-Cory
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Great message Cory! I can't believe you found that thread - I had completely
forgotten about it and that point in time - rereading it was a great reminder
to me (with my own words, lol) to try and find balance.
My husband and I have made those jokes with our son of our demise. Typical sense
of his dark humor response - "It's okay, I'll just put you in a home."
And I hope he really does when the time comes. I don't want to put any of
this on him.
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| | | | | | | | | Author: | popsicle | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 12:51 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 72 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | | | What you're doing for your mother is supremely difficult in ways beyond simple
exhaustion or the disruption of personal needs and desires. Some of these difficulties
will only become apparent after she's left you, Judith. Psychologically taxing
caring for another as they fadeaway, much more so for a parent or child.
I’m eager to learn what you might learn during with this BL-hiatus:
https://www.bricklink.com/message.asp?ID=1161196 Please share when it's time.
… But my hope is that you’ll make the effort to stay involved in what’s been
in a sense, your forum of the last 15 years. It can be a good place to find a
little solace
The subject of caring for me when it’s my time, came up for the first time between
my kids and I, some time ago. Of course, I tried to make light of the fact that
dad's not gonna be around forever, by saying something like “no biggie, just
find a decent raisin ranch to stick me in” Neither my son nor daughter appreciated
the humor at all. In fact, my daughter upset and with a stern voice, declared
“You’re living with us, dad!" Subject dropped
After spending years sheltering them, parents never want to see their children
burdened, even when grown. To then perceive oneself to be that burden… very difficult.
-Cory
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Great message Cory! I can't believe you found that thread -
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Actually wasn't looking for it, I just remember conversations that have more
importance to me.
| | I had completely forgotten about it and that point in time - rereading it was a great reminder
to me (with my own words, lol) to try and find balance.
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Good. Thought it might.
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My husband and I have made those jokes with our son of our demise. Typical sense
of his dark humor response - "It's okay, I'll just put you in a home."
And I hope he really does when the time comes. I don't want to put any of
this on him.
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Completely understand, Judith. There is another side to this though, which I
left out not wanting to be too lengthy. That is the sometimes profound meaning
and keen sense of purpose that’s often found, which offers a caregiver the comfort
and peace of mind needed, especially when it’s a spouse, child or parent that’s
fading.
The alternative is to sit on the sidelines while the inevitable happens, as your
siblings apparently have decided. In the end, it's you that will have had
those precious moments with your mother, your siblings will never know. Makes
you sad for them, almost.
Leaving for the weekend now. Take care.
-Cory
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| | | | | Author: | legoman77 | | Posted: | May 4, 2022 21:18 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 59 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
One day, I will have time again and hoping I still have the stamina/knowledge
to make a presence once more.
all the best, Judith
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Good luck to you. I know the demands of caring for others. I had my mentality
and physically handicapped brother-in-law. My time was no longer my time. He
was a handful and died when Covid just started. He was one of the reason I sold
my little Lego collection. It was worth it.
Your mother is very lucky she has a good child. You will be proud of what you
are doing. Caring for another person (or a cat) is what fuels one’s soul and
makes a life worthwhile.
John P
Churchill: “You make a living by what you get. You make a life by what you give.”
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| | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 08:02 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 37 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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Good luck to you. I know the demands of caring for others. I had my mentality
and physically handicapped brother-in-law. My time was no longer my time. He
was a handful and died when Covid just started. He was one of the reason I sold
my little Lego collection. It was worth it.
Your mother is very lucky she has a good child. You will be proud of what you
are doing. Caring for another person (or a cat) is what fuels one’s soul and
makes a life worthwhile.
John P
Churchill: “You make a living by what you get. You make a life by what you give.”
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Thanks John P - I had no idea you were going through that. I remember when you
decided to sell your collection. I will do my best for her, as always - but living
30 minutes away causes a great deal of anxiety - her mobility is not good these
days. You question, am I doing the right thing, constantly.
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| | | | | Author: | Sadler_Bricks | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 00:19 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 40 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| Wishing you and your family the best and do hope to see you around these parts
down the road.
Sadler_bricks
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| | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 08:03 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 30 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, Sadler_Bricks writes:
| | Wishing you and your family the best and do hope to see you around these parts
down the road.
Sadler_bricks
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Thank you for the kind words - I hope I'll make it back too!
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| | | | | Author: | change | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 01:30 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 55 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
One day, I will have time again and hoping I still have the stamina/knowledge
to make a presence once more.
all the best, Judith
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Be strong and take care.
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| | | | | | | Author: | dearlydeparted | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 08:03 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 35 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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Thank you, will do.
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| | | | | Author: | WildBricks | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 11:49 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 32 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
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Just remember to take care of yourself as well. Caregiver burnout is a very real
thing. Your health is as important as hers.
Good luck and be well.
https://www.caregiver.org/state-resource/children-aging-parents/
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| | | | | Author: | sickofthis88 | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 11:56 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 34 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| So sorry to hear about the path you are taking. Just remember that you will
need to take care of you. Debbie
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| | | | | Author: | JulieK | | Posted: | May 5, 2022 15:21 | | Subject: | Re: Sadly will not be able to reopen anytime soon | | Viewed: | 37 times | | Topic: | Selling | |
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| In Selling, dearlydeparted writes:
| | Hello All,
It's with a heavy heart that I am forced to leave you all for a while. No
idea in the foreseeable future when I will back. Know I will miss this place,
the members and playing with Lego!
If you aren't there already, many of you will be one day. I am in pretty
intense elder care mode. I have been for 10+ years, but with age comes the increasing
need for intervention in all things. My mother just turned 94, amazing. She still
lives alone in our family home and I want to keep it that way until I/she can't.
It is a pretty exhausting time and emotionally intensive job. What was 1 day
a week is now 4, and constantly on call for problems. The home infrastructure
is also crumbling - so scrambling for contractors for many issues - and we all
know the pain that can be.
One day, I will have time again and hoping I still have the stamina/knowledge
to make a presence once more.
all the best, Judith
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All the best to you as well.
I'm just starting the Alzheimer's experience with my 80 year old mom
Take care - Julie
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