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 Author: BarbaraH View Messages Posted By BarbaraH
 Posted: Dec 18, 2025 11:08
 Subject: Buyer cancelling order
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BarbaraH (1271)

Location:  United Kingdom, England
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Store: DurhamBrix
Had an order from Mexico (I'm in UK) from someone with zero feedback, but
thought "hey, everyone has to start somewhere". 169 items in 75 lots.
Selected it all because I needed weight and size to get correct postage.
Postage is expensive, as you would expect, it's going halfway across the
world and there's international fees etc. It's too big for large letter,
got to be a small parcel.
I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

Now he wants to cancel because "sorry, i found a shop with more sticker parts,
tsm for the attention."

Or maybe it's really "oops I didn't realise ordering this much Lego
from the other side of the Atlantic would cost as much in shipping as the cost
of the bricks."

Anyway, I'm a bit miffed to say the least because I have spent time picking
his order and filling in the invoice and now I've got to put it all back
because he got a better offer.....am I obliged to let him cancel is my actually
question? Sorry it took so long to get to the point, I have everything he put
in his order, nothing missing.
 Author: jennnifer View Messages Posted By jennnifer
 Posted: Dec 18, 2025 11:28
 Subject: Re: Buyer cancelling order
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jennnifer (3699)

Location:  USA, Illinois
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In Selling, BarbaraH writes:
  Had an order from Mexico (I'm in UK) from someone with zero feedback, but
thought "hey, everyone has to start somewhere". 169 items in 75 lots.
Selected it all because I needed weight and size to get correct postage.
Postage is expensive, as you would expect, it's going halfway across the
world and there's international fees etc. It's too big for large letter,
got to be a small parcel.
I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

Now he wants to cancel because "sorry, i found a shop with more sticker parts,
tsm for the attention."

Or maybe it's really "oops I didn't realise ordering this much Lego
from the other side of the Atlantic would cost as much in shipping as the cost
of the bricks."

Anyway, I'm a bit miffed to say the least because I have spent time picking
his order and filling in the invoice and now I've got to put it all back
because he got a better offer.....am I obliged to let him cancel is my actually
question? Sorry it took so long to get to the point, I have everything he put
in his order, nothing missing.

I would absolutely let them cancel. The rest of the internet doesn't work
like BL and your average buyer, especially a new one here, is going to expect
that cancelling an order is pretty normal.

Lesson learned on pulling orders before payment? In this situation, I would always
just estimate the shipping, leaning toward the high end, and then refund any
overcharge if it turned out there was some.

Sorry, I know it's no fun to pull an order and put it all back. Silver lining:
your inventory got checked and is really accurate!

~Jen
 Author: RebelliousBrick View Messages Posted By RebelliousBrick
 Posted: Dec 18, 2025 12:21
 Subject: Re: Buyer cancelling order
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RebelliousBrick (28)

Location:  Canada, Alberta
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In Selling, BarbaraH writes:
  Had an order from Mexico (I'm in UK) from someone with zero feedback, but
thought "hey, everyone has to start somewhere". 169 items in 75 lots.
Selected it all because I needed weight and size to get correct postage.
Postage is expensive, as you would expect, it's going halfway across the
world and there's international fees etc. It's too big for large letter,
got to be a small parcel.
I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

Now he wants to cancel because "sorry, i found a shop with more sticker parts,
tsm for the attention."

Or maybe it's really "oops I didn't realise ordering this much Lego
from the other side of the Atlantic would cost as much in shipping as the cost
of the bricks."

Anyway, I'm a bit miffed to say the least because I have spent time picking
his order and filling in the invoice and now I've got to put it all back
because he got a better offer.....am I obliged to let him cancel is my actually
question? Sorry it took so long to get to the point, I have everything he put
in his order, nothing missing.

let them cancel, high shipping is a valid reason (even tough they didn't
say it)

For next time don't pick orders before they are paid.
You can use Brickstore to get a weight (add like 10% for packing)
 Author: Nubs_Select View Messages Posted By Nubs_Select
 Posted: Dec 18, 2025 12:33
 Subject: Re: Buyer cancelling order
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Nubs_Select (4851)

Location:  Canada, Ontario
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Store: Nub's Select
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In Selling, RebelliousBrick writes:
  In Selling, BarbaraH writes:
  Had an order from Mexico (I'm in UK) from someone with zero feedback, but
thought "hey, everyone has to start somewhere". 169 items in 75 lots.
Selected it all because I needed weight and size to get correct postage.
Postage is expensive, as you would expect, it's going halfway across the
world and there's international fees etc. It's too big for large letter,
got to be a small parcel.
I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

Now he wants to cancel because "sorry, i found a shop with more sticker parts,
tsm for the attention."

Or maybe it's really "oops I didn't realise ordering this much Lego
from the other side of the Atlantic would cost as much in shipping as the cost
of the bricks."

Anyway, I'm a bit miffed to say the least because I have spent time picking
his order and filling in the invoice and now I've got to put it all back
because he got a better offer.....am I obliged to let him cancel is my actually
question? Sorry it took so long to get to the point, I have everything he put
in his order, nothing missing.

let them cancel, high shipping is a valid reason (even tough they didn't
say it)

For next time don't pick orders before they are paid.

100% never pull or pack an order before payment is made

  You can use Brickstore to get a weight (add like 10% for packing)

The orders itself also shows the weight, tho I’m not sure if you need to enable
a setting to show it, but I’ve found it to be mostly accurate
 Author: Ineedthatbrick View Messages Posted By Ineedthatbrick
 Posted: Jan 5, 2026 05:46
 Subject: Re: Buyer cancelling order
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Ineedthatbrick (110)

Location:  USA, New Jersey
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Store: InNeedOfBrick
Where in orders can I find the weight? Thanks!
In Selling, Nubs_Select writes:
  In Selling, RebelliousBrick writes:
  In Selling, BarbaraH writes:
  Had an order from Mexico (I'm in UK) from someone with zero feedback, but
thought "hey, everyone has to start somewhere". 169 items in 75 lots.
Selected it all because I needed weight and size to get correct postage.
Postage is expensive, as you would expect, it's going halfway across the
world and there's international fees etc. It's too big for large letter,
got to be a small parcel.
I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

Now he wants to cancel because "sorry, i found a shop with more sticker parts,
tsm for the attention."

Or maybe it's really "oops I didn't realise ordering this much Lego
from the other side of the Atlantic would cost as much in shipping as the cost
of the bricks."

Anyway, I'm a bit miffed to say the least because I have spent time picking
his order and filling in the invoice and now I've got to put it all back
because he got a better offer.....am I obliged to let him cancel is my actually
question? Sorry it took so long to get to the point, I have everything he put
in his order, nothing missing.

let them cancel, high shipping is a valid reason (even tough they didn't
say it)

For next time don't pick orders before they are paid.

100% never pull or pack an order before payment is made

  You can use Brickstore to get a weight (add like 10% for packing)

The orders itself also shows the weight, tho I’m not sure if you need to enable
a setting to show it, but I’ve found it to be mostly accurate
 Author: Nubs_Select View Messages Posted By Nubs_Select
 Posted: Jan 5, 2026 13:01
 Subject: Re: Buyer cancelling order
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Nubs_Select (4851)

Location:  Canada, Ontario
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Store: Nub's Select
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In Selling, Ineedthatbrick writes:
  Where in orders can I find the weight? Thanks!

If it isn’t yet enabled, you can enable it on this page

https://www.bricklink.com/orderSettings.asp

And it will appear on the lower right of the order

  In Selling, Nubs_Select writes:
  In Selling, RebelliousBrick writes:
  In Selling, BarbaraH writes:
  Had an order from Mexico (I'm in UK) from someone with zero feedback, but
thought "hey, everyone has to start somewhere". 169 items in 75 lots.
Selected it all because I needed weight and size to get correct postage.
Postage is expensive, as you would expect, it's going halfway across the
world and there's international fees etc. It's too big for large letter,
got to be a small parcel.
I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

Now he wants to cancel because "sorry, i found a shop with more sticker parts,
tsm for the attention."

Or maybe it's really "oops I didn't realise ordering this much Lego
from the other side of the Atlantic would cost as much in shipping as the cost
of the bricks."

Anyway, I'm a bit miffed to say the least because I have spent time picking
his order and filling in the invoice and now I've got to put it all back
because he got a better offer.....am I obliged to let him cancel is my actually
question? Sorry it took so long to get to the point, I have everything he put
in his order, nothing missing.

let them cancel, high shipping is a valid reason (even tough they didn't
say it)

For next time don't pick orders before they are paid.

100% never pull or pack an order before payment is made

  You can use Brickstore to get a weight (add like 10% for packing)

The orders itself also shows the weight, tho I’m not sure if you need to enable
a setting to show it, but I’ve found it to be mostly accurate
 Author: HoosierNinja View Messages Posted By HoosierNinja
 Posted: Dec 18, 2025 13:27
 Subject: Re: Buyer cancelling order
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HoosierNinja (1124)

Location:  USA, Indiana
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Store: Hoosier Daddy
It may seem harsh to file an NPB on a new member, but if you allow the buyer
to cancel his first order, he will likely think it's OK to cancel any order
for any reason.

David
 Author: Proprietor View Messages Posted By Proprietor
 Posted: Dec 18, 2025 15:36
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Proprietor (1757)

Location:  USA, New York
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Store: Lost & Found
In Selling, HoosierNinja writes:
  It may seem harsh to file an NPB on a new member, but if you allow the buyer
to cancel his first order, he will likely think it's OK to cancel any order
for any reason.

David

Or he won't. If he does, he'll end up with NPB's and bad feedback
anyway. Hopefully this will be a learning experience. It's the holiday season;
I'd let this one go.
 Author: peregrinator View Messages Posted By peregrinator
 Posted: Jan 5, 2026 07:49
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peregrinator (1101)

Location:  USA, New Jersey
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Store: Faber Family Bricks
In Selling, BarbaraH writes:
  I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

When you said this I thought it was going in another direction, namely that you
sent the parcel untracked and the buyer said it never reached him and asked for
a refund. I'd strongly advise against sending untracked parcels to new buyers,
especially internationally.
 Author: Cezardenis20 View Messages Posted By Cezardenis20
 Posted: Jan 5, 2026 21:41
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Cezardenis20 (169)

Location:  Canada, Ontario
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That's very risky!!!!


paypal will refund buyer and you will end up without your items and without money,
I had a "tracked" parcel and agreement with buyer, for no insurance,
and still paypal gave the money back to the buyer after package delivery was
delayed over 30 days. Now package will be delivered and they closed the case
and will not re-open.







In Selling, peregrinator writes:
  In Selling, BarbaraH writes:
  I quoted for tracking because I figured it would be safer being able to see where
it was, especially at this time of year, but I messaged the buyer to say if he
was happy with untracked it would be a bit cheaper. Sent invoice

When you said this I thought it was going in another direction, namely that you
sent the parcel untracked and the buyer said it never reached him and asked for
a refund. I'd strongly advise against sending untracked parcels to new buyers,
especially internationally.